God wishes to be at the centre of our marriage. This is only possible when both parties to the marriage are born again Christians.
However if we are married to a nonbeliever we should not seek divorce unless the situation becomes impossible.
The Bible says that the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by her husband.
However if the unbeliever departs we are not under bondage in such cases. We are free to divorce.
If we are contemplating marriage we must be careful that we do not marry an unbeliever.
“Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness?
And what accord has Christ with the Belial (the devil)? Or what part has a believer with an unbeliever?” (2 Corinthians 6:14-15.)
The body of the believer is the temple of the Holy Spirit and that is why we should not seek marriage with an unbeliever.
Sex within marriage is part of God’s plan for our lives. (1 Corinthians 7:4-5.) We should not deprive one another in this regard except with the other party’s consent.
Husbands must love their wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself for it. (Ephesians 5:25.) “So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself.” (Ephesians 5:28.)
Husbands should lay their lives down for their wives as Christ lay down His life for the church. (Ephesians 5:25.)
The husband should be the spiritual head of the marriage as Christ is the head of the church. (Ephesians 5:23.)
This means that the husband should be leading a godly life being fully submitted to Jesus Christ and being an example to his wife and family.
A husband is to love his wife as himself, and the wife should see that she respects her husband. (Ephesians 5:33).
A husband must dwell with his wife with understanding, giving honour to her and being heirs together of the grace of life, so that their prayers may not be hindered. (1 Peter 3:7.)
Then God will bless the marriage and the children.
I was privileged to have a wonderful wife named Pat for many years before she passed away. We followed the above principles and we were greatly blessed.
I’m now married to Kaylene and again we are privileged to have a wonderful marriage because we follow the same principles.
We forgive each other readily and each morning we have communion together praying for other people including our family. We see great answers to prayer.
A godly marriage is a wonderful gift from God. It can be yours.